For Parents Of Twins: Ways for Stay At Home Moms to Fight the Guilt Factor

Every parent strives to do their absolute best for their children - and every parent worries that they have not succeeded. This potential shortcoming haunts all parents - but for full-time mothers of twins, the guilt can be paralyzing.

It is not uncommon that mothers of twins find themselves homebound after enjoying the comparative freedom of being a working wife. Suddenly the guilt is increased - unless she can afford a housekeeper or babysitter, she not only must hide her resentment at being stuck at home with children she's "supposed" to love, she also feels guilty about not contributing what is very likely a desperately-needed additional income.

Then there's the issue of "quality time" - if she's home alone with the twins, the mother is just too busy looking after them to initiate any significant interaction. Will they have social problems as they grow up because she was unable make the time to play with them? And we haven't even touched upon the guilt she may be experiencing about not being able to do the housework.

The cause of all this guilt? The utterly ridiculous idea that it shouldn't be impossible to handle twice as many babies as most stay-at-home mothers have to. As a result, moms of twins live in fear of being branded as absolute failures as parents if they ask for even the slightest amount of assistance.

The answers to all this guilt? Three things:

Be prepared.

If you find you're expecting twins, start building a support network right away. Find out which of your family, friends, and neighbors can help with laundry, errands, emergency babysitting, late-night feedings, or just playing with your twins while you take a nap.

Don't hesitate to reach beyond your immediate circle for help.

Consult local social agencies, and the Internet provides a galaxy of resources for rocktivity.com/for-parents-of-twins parents of twins (including ways to save money).

Refuse to be SuperWoman.

You're quite human, and caring for twins should be considered quite a superhuman task. Fortunately, someone has written an e-book that can provide step-by-step instructions in how mothers of twins can stick up for themselves.

Twins! The Survival Guide is a treasure trove of tricks, tips and strategies for everything from getting through feeding time faster to traveling with twin babies. You can order it at rocktivity.com/for-parents-of-twins rocktivity.com/for-parents-of-twins. And it makes the next best gift to emergency babysitting.